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speak to me.

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speak to me.

So true, in so many different ways.

I know this particular nugget of wisdom speaks mostly to romantic relationships, but for some reason, it was just what I needed to hear after this disaster of a day I had.

Sometimes, we have to come to terms with the fact that we can do a lot with a little, some extra magic tricks on the side, and perhaps even have a bright idea (or 10) — but that doesn’t mean it’ll be appreciated or recognized. In fact, whether purposeful or not, just the opposite might occur; and your efforts may be reduced to futile attempts to right a wrong or correct a fallacy.

This is life.

We can’t have what we want, when and how we want it — but, we can most certainly control how much we give, who we give it to, and our own expectations.

From my perspective, that’s exactly the shift in focus I needed to hear.

Tomorrow, is another day.

breaking up.

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A break up can be a long, lonely road. Especially, if one of the parties involved disagrees with the reasoning for the break-up or wishes to struggle to continue to the relationship.

Add in distance, limited capabilities to communicate, and the tricks and treats of combat zones and leading a platoon; and well — you’ve got my situation exactly.

Let me be up front and honest right now:

- I was the one who initiated the break up.

- For the most part, I am also the reason the relationship began careening irreversibly into a wall of resentment.

I know, I know, I know what you are going to say. It takes two to tango, and this is true. However, in this particular instance, I can own up to committing three key relationship “no-gos.” I violated that old wisdom that mothers and fathers and friends have been trying to impart on me for over a decade. Until now, I just couldn’t understand the consequences of doing so.

For all intensive purposes, I shall refer to my relationship as “R4.” This is because this relationship is the fourth relationship in my adult life to last more than eight months. [READ MORE]