i wanna be a porn star when i grow up!

As a young adult, the dominant message was “porn is bad.”

Depending upon the context of the conversation or situation, sex in general was bad. And, the concept of sexuality, sexual expression, gender expression, and/or gender variance was just plain old non-existent.

In fact, growing up Pentecostal, pretty much everything enjoyable in the free world was “of the flesh,” and could lead to “demon possession.” This, of course, was undesirable, and the prevailing impression us children often walked away from Sunday school with, was that constant prayer and avoiding most everything fun was the one fail-safe way to avoid demons, the Devil, and eternal damnation. [READ MORE]

100 things “good girls” just don’t do.

How many of you have ever heard the random statements parents, neighbors, and/or friends (male or female) make regarding the things “good girls” should and shouldn’t do?

Doesn’t it just piss you off sometimes?

I mean, isn’t it just frustrating?!

What’s a girl gotta do to let her hair loose without having her character debased, her self-worth assaulted, and her morality called to question?

Following a conversation with a few guys in my carpool (guys can be really ridiculous when talking about things their girlfriends/wives “better not” do), I sat down to compile a list of things “good girls” just don’t do. Let’s get a good visual of how utterly ridiculous and downright contradictory these standards are. They are not in any particular order, and feel free to leave a comment adding something to the list. Let’s see how long this list can be! [READ MORE]